Hi There Sister, and welcome to the swirling of thoughts…
A tad activated, and today could very well be “ONE of these” rantings of thoughts
with a: Whoa, what is this, what did I just read…?
type of spilling the words from me
And inviting you along to come with me…
Today, we're going to talk about a topic that might ruffle some feathers
all the way to the bottom
...in hopes of stirring up
some controversy.
Yes, this little INFJ-
is willing to shake things up
As the pendulum swings…
…I'm all about pushing the boundaries- this little REBEL of me
Not attached to those puppeteer strings.
So,
let's dive right in.
You've probably heard of the Four Horsemen, right…?
And No, I'm not talking about the harbingers of the apocalypse.
I'm talking about a phenomenon that can wreak havoc ON you
and on ALL of your relationships and, ultimately, your happiness
will quickly go with this.
These are the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse,
and they can spell disaster if left unchecked.
1. First up, we've got criticism.
See, Sister- the thing is, it's easy to fall into the trap
of nitpicking and finding fault within yourself
where that monkey mind takes a route on some internal chatter
and truth be told-
A tad easier with your partner.
How much does he snore…?
Along with the new subscription
we all appear to have signed up for…
How much does he kick
in his sleep..?
and now, the lavender
and frankincense essential bottles
are almost empty
in only three weeks…
Here’s the thing,
constantly criticizing,
self-effacing,
and pointing out flaws
with an arrow shot in the opposite direction is a one-way ticket
to resentment and hostility.
Instead, try focusing on what you appreciate about yourself
And then pour into your partner and communicate in a loving manner.
P.S. And this one-
seems to be an upcoming trend…
How much does he steal the duvet…?
where your skin feels like an ice rink in the middle of July, as the sun breaks before the next adventure for the day…
- and as you turn over, you pause a minute to simply gaze- a smile comes over your face
he sure does look cozy inside the cocoon, he made
So, instead, you gently caress him softly - until you fall back to sleep again.
2. Next card on the table, we have contempt.
This is like criticism on steroids.
You can feel this in every cellular level of your body
infiltrating your bone marrow.
You can totally tell when this vibe arrives inside of you and inside out.
It's the eye-rolling, sarcasm-laden, superiority-complex
kind of attitude that can poison
a relationship in all but 7 seconds.
It's important to remember that you're a team, facing challenges and obstacles that will be arriving in the unseen and unknown.
treating yourself and/ or your partner with contempt is a surefire way to destroy that sense of unity…
You break the co-creative space
where sex becomes a transactional give and take.
And that is really EMPTY.
If you don’t think this is a fact, Google check would open up the portals of a tad of what in the ____?
How many relationships don’t ever move out of “situationship”...?
could be described as astounding - with a few extras after this.
Anyone can pick up anyone truly and have a dose of fantasy
EXCEPT
That one night in the sheets will NEVER even equate to BEING inside a fully COMMITTED relationship
built on overcoming mountains, cultivated with vulnerability, and showing up day in and day out
BEING transparent in the good with the bad and upholding a place of sacredness in the midst.
All of this- YES, please, no second thoughts and thank you for the sprinkles on ice cream.
Then number 3,
there's defensiveness.
It's natural to want to defend yourself when you feel attacked,
but
constantly being on the defensive can derail communication and create a toxic cycle of blame-shifting.
Instead, try to approach conflicts with an open mind and a willingness to listen with YOUR entire presence holding empathy with lots of compassion.
You’d be so amazed if you understood what it truly meant to POUR out your heart for the ones you love
Why…?
There’s no promise of tomorrow.
4. Last but not least- stonewalling.
This is YOU isolate yourself
When you look for an escape route- Intentionally
When you receive messages
And these sit there unopened
On the outside, it looks like:
when one partner shuts down and withdraws from the conversation,
leaving the other feeling shut out, invalidated, and isolated.
This is AKA- ghosting…
The Urban Dictionary version.
inviduals have skyrocketed this behavior since 2020, using toxic phrases to create their disillusions to be justified…
bottom line:
an immature F&*cking game
Wow, did you just read all this…?!
YUP, it’s disgusting.
Shows the lack of EQ, to communicate, the lack of grown-up accountability and the facade they wear to protect their fragility.
Staying engaged and present in your interactions is crucial, even when things get tough- being a human can sometimes be rough.
So there you have it,
a short snippet on the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse.
But the good news is, that recognizing these destructive patterns is the first step towards addressing them
Ultimately building healthier, more fulfilling, and meaningful connections with yourself and with one another.
So,
let's commit to being mindful of these destructive behaviors and instead, strive to communicate with wholehearted love, respect, and understanding.
You've got this, Sister.
Here's to thriving relationships within YOU and a life filled with love and happiness in the relationships that matter the most.
Appreciate you stopping in;
will be seeing you soon~
Lisa @ The Sigma Société
Hi There Sister, and welcome to the swirling of thoughts…
A tad activated, and today could very well be
“ONE of these” rantings of thoughts
with a: Whoa, what is this, what did I just read…?
type of spilling the words from me
And inviting you along to come with me…
Today, we're going to talk about a topic
that might ruffle some feathers
all the way to the bottom
In hopes of stirring up some controversy.
Yes, this little INFJ-
is willing to shake things up
As the pendulum swings…
… I'm all about pushing the boundaries
This little REBEL of me
Not attached to those puppeteer strings.
So,
let's dive right in.
You've probably heard of the Four Horsemen, right…?
And No, I'm not talking about the harbingers
of the apocalypse.
I'm talking about a phenomenon that can wreak havoc ON you
and on ALL of your relationships and, ultimately, your happiness
will quickly go with this.
These are the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse,
and they can spell disaster if left unchecked.
1. First up, we've got criticism.
See, Sister- the thing is, it's easy to fall into the trap
of nitpicking and finding fault within yourself
where that monkey mind takes a route on some internal chatter
and truth be told-
A tad easier with your partner.
How much does he snore…?
Along with the new subscription
we all appear to have signed up for…
How much does he kick in his sleep..?
and now, the lavender and frankincense essential bottles
are almost empty in only three weeks…
Here’s the thing, constantly criticizing, self-effacing, and pointing out flaws
with an arrow shot in the opposite direction is a one-way ticket
to resentment and hostility.
Instead, try focusing on what you appreciate about yourself
And then pour into your partner and communicate in a loving manner.
P.S. And this one- seems to be an upcoming trend…
How much does he steal the duvet…?
where your skin feels like an ice rink in the middle of July,
as the sun breaks before the next adventure for the day…
- and as you turn over, you pause a minute
to simply gaze- a smile comes over your face
he sure does look cozy inside the cocoon, he made
So, instead, you gently caress him softly
- until you fell back to sleep again.
2. Next card on the table, we have contempt.
This is like criticism on steroids.
You can feel this in every cellular level of your body
infiltrating your bone marrow.
You can totally tell when this vibe arrives
inside of you and inside out.
It's the eye-rolling, sarcasm-laden, superiority-complex
kind of attitude that can poison a relationship in all but 7 seconds.
It's important to remember that you're a team, facing challenges and obstacles
that will be arriving in the unseen and unknown.
treating yourself and/ or your partner with contempt
is a surefire way to destroy that sense of unity…
You break the co-creative space
where sex becomes a transactional give and take.
And that is really EMPTY.
If you don’t think this is a fact, Google check would open up the portals
Of a tad of the what in the ____?
How many relationships don’t move out of “situationship”
could be described as astounding - with a few extras after this.
Anyone can pick up anyone truly and have a dose of fantasy
EXCEPT
That one night in the sheets will NEVER even equate
to BEING inside a fully COMMITTED relationship
built on overcoming mountains, cultivated with vulnerability, and showing up
day in and day out
BEING transparent in the good with the bad
and upholding a place of sacredness in the midst.
All of this- YES, please, no second thoughts
and thank you for the sprinkles on ice cream.
Then number 3, there's defensiveness.
It's natural to want to defend yourself when you feel attacked,
but constantly being on the defensive can derail communication
and create a toxic cycle of blame-shifting.
Instead, try to approach conflicts with an open mind
and a willingness to listen with YOUR entire presence
hold empathy with lots of compassion.
You’d be so amazed if you understood what it truly meant
to POUR out your heart for the ones you love
Why…?
There’s no promise of tomorrow.
4. Last but not least- stonewalling.
This is YOU isolate yourself
When you look for an escape route-
Intentionally
When you receive messages
And these sit there unopened
On the outside, it looks like:
when one partner shuts down and withdraws from the conversation,
leaving the other feeling shut out, invalidated, and isolated.
This is AKA- ghosting…
The Urban Dictionary version.
inviduals have skyrocketed this behavior since 2020,
using toxic phrases to create their disillusions to be justified…
bottom line: an immature F&*cking game
Wow, did you just read all this…?!
YUP, it’s disgusting.
Shows the lack of EQ, to communicate, the lack of grown-up accountability
And the facade they wear to protect their fragility.
Staying engaged and present in your interactions is crucial,
even when things get tough- being a human can sometimes be rough.
So there you have it, a short snippet on the four horsemen
of the relationship apocalypse.
But the good news is, that recognizing these destructive patterns
is the first step towards addressing them
Ultimately building healthier, more fulfilling, and meaningful connections
With yourself and with one another.
So,
let's commit to being mindful of these destructive behaviors and instead,
strive to communicate with wholehearted love, respect, and understanding.
You've got this, Sister.
Here's to thriving relationships within YOU and a life filled with love and happiness
in the relationships that matter the most.
Appreciate you stopping in;
will be seeing you soon~
Lisa @ The Sigma Société